Are You a Door Slammer - What Does it Accomplish

Purrrrr..."Who asked that stupid question?"

I think most of us at some time in our lives have slammed a door out of frustration or anger. I know I'm guilty. It's not something I do now, and I'm not sure why I've done it in the past, except that it was a way to make sure that those around me knew I was upset.

But thinking back on the action, it was really a reaction to my own uncontrolled emotions. And to address the question as to what it accomplished, it would be easier to tell you what it DIDN'T accomplish.

It didn't make those around me care more about my feelings.
It didn't improve the situation at hand.
It didn't make me a better person.
It didn't get me what I wanted.
It didn't show how mature I was or thought I was.
It didn't punish anyone but myself.
It didn't make me feel like I had won anything of value.

The bottom line is that door slamming is something we do to express our anger, annoyance, or frustration. It's easier than maturely finding ways to cope with those feelings that don't involve passive violence. It's childish and definitely not cool, tough, or smart.

A child is taught to not slam the door when entering the house because it's considered bad manners and disrespectful. And he's likely to regret slamming the door on his way out. Why? Because it's considered as venting his contempt for those in the house/room. Either way, door slamming doesn't seem to put us in a good place. It's one of those things better left to our 'terrible twos' and not carried over to our teen or adult years.

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